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I found this advice on another blog, and wanted to pass it along. Many people have asked how they can help. Please read the advice from some industry insiders.

LA TV industry insider said...

I've worked in the tv industry (NOT at TLC/Discovery) for 20 years and am embarrassed by the J&K show. We are not all like this. Let me offer some info and advice.

Smart comment made earlier by someone that the window to affect the show's status is right now. But you must have impact in front of the people who are making advertising, merchandising, investment decisions. That means posting your comments in places they read. Not People, TMZ or Access Hollywood.

--You need to post in places that reach the entertainment business industry such as that Flackback column about the Discovery ceo at TheWrap; the New York Times Media Decoder column; Advertising Age; Broadcasting & Cable magazine.

--Contact your cable or satellite company's main office - remember that they pay Discovery a fee to carry their channels, which comes from your monthly bill.

--Write the discovery board. Go to corporate.discovery.com and write to the business partners mentioned in their press releases.

**And remember that Discovery also owns/programs Discovery Channel, Military Channel, Animal Planet, Oprah's coming network, etc. Mention them. Expand your focus.

The show is on hiatus in terms of airing new episodes ONLY. That doesn't mean they are on hiatus in regard to filming. I believe they are probably still in production now, filming everything imaginable as they try to figure out how to continue the show without alienating viewers. The 6 weeks between today and the return of new episodes is very little time to try and sort out what this new animal will be.

And finally, pay attention to the frequent discrepancies in their stated timelines about problems and plans. Note that all they really say during the show is that they've decided to separate. And realize that due to routine TV post-production, scheduling and network review steps, this episode has to have been fully completed at least a week earlier than its airdate. And K's filing of divorce papers was done AFTER the episode was completed. She seems to have only given the producers enough information and advance warning for them to add the small written update at the end. Did K do it, and time it, to win the publicity war? Probably. But the "big announcement" that TLC planned on seems to have been just the separation. And to bring this all full-circle, K's filing successfully threw the entire series into a level of chaos and uncertainty that Discovery could never have imagined. What it does is open the door wider for people to have more influence on its future.

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Advice From Someone In Marketing said...

Hello All:

I have been a long-time reader of this site but this is my first time posting. I work in marketing (unrelated to TLC/Discovery) and I wanted to follow up on "LA TV Insider's" advice.

This person's advice is dead on. The trade publications (AdAge, PRWeek, Media Decoder et al) are where you want to go if you want to get the ear of those who make decisions. NOT, TMZ, Just Jared, People, Us etc...

You also want them to know something about you when you post so they can quantify the market they are losing. You don't have to tell them too much, but just a little something. Without this information they are likely to write you off as a "crazy," or a "nut."

Your comment/reply should tell them 1.) What type of consumer you are 2.) You are unhappy with the situation 3.) You have taken actions because of your dissatisfaction.

For Example:

"I am a 32 year old divorced mother of 2 with a household income of $45k/yr. I am outraged by the continued exploitation of these 8 children and can no longer tolerate it. I was once a loyal [viewer/shopper] of [show/channel/store/product] but due to the [show/channel/store/product] role in this situation I no longer [view/buy.]"

I hope this helps.

TLC should be Ashamed!!

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Please Stop Watching

Kevin and Jodi plead with the public to give the children their privacy and stop watching the destruction of their family.

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Waiting

I keep reading that the PA Department of Labor is investigating the show. To my knowledge, people who have filed complaints and have actually been present during filming have not even been acknowledged, interviewed...nothing!

Mr. Petersen is also experiencing the same frustrations.

http://www.minorcon.org/waiting.html

What can explain the failure of folks to make use of the communications tools as close as their computer or telephone? Is it just me, or do others wonder why the higher-ups at TLC, the Pennsylvania Department of Labor and Industry, or the so-called professionals surrounding Nadya Suleman can't bring themselves to pick up the telephone and call A Minor Consideration?

Is there some reason the team around Jon and Kate just can't see their way clear to involving the premiere experts in the totality of the risks unique to children in entertainment?

Is it guilt or fear? Those are poor excuses when the welfare of dozens of children is at stake.

It is absolutely clear that mistakes have been made by parents and production companies alike, and that whatever advice and counsel may have been sought has been sickeningly misguided.

"What we have here," said Strother Martin in "Cool Hand Luke," "is a failure to communicate."

It is the height of corporate irresponsibility to employ children in profit-making endeavors and pretend that there are no consequences…now or in the future.

Generations of parents who exposed their flesh-and-blood to celebrity have learned to their sorrow that they didn't know best.

State labor officials need to recognize how dangerous their lack of knowledge of the production process can be when children are employed, especially in reality shows, which are all show and no reality.

The legal advisors to those named above might want to take a look at the principle of Disaffirmance, for I can promise you that when the kids you are employing get around to calling us on their 18th birthday every dollar you think you saved by not treating them fairly will be multiplied a hundred-fold.

Count on it

A Minor Consideration does not engage in "I told you so" if that is your concern. We deal in the present and the future as only we know it.

There is no excuse for child abuse.

And finally, if there is anyone in the White House who wants to know how the $68 million dollars committed to global child labor the President just announced might be better spent right here at home, you're welcome to call, too.

Paul Petersen

The Big Announcement

I've seen several different discussions online about "The Big Announcement", and I absolutely agree with those who believe this is being used to deflect from a more serious issue that is going on. They are trying to deflect the attention away from the "glimpse" everyone got of what Kate is really like with her children. This was not just an isolated incident. I'm not going to discuss the spanking issue, because I don't think "spanking" is really the issue at all. I think the point should be...was she reacting out of anger? Did the punishment fit the crime?

Many viewers have been very observant and have seen the indications/signs of what is really going on. So many people have been criticized for voicing their opinions about what they have actually seen on the show...putting the pieces of the puzzle together and figuring out what the dynamics of this family is really all about. They are called "lairs", "haters" and "jealous" for speaking out and seeing through the facade of the "reality" show.

Kate has prided herself in saying that their show is the "realest" reality show. You get the good, the bad and the ugly. Well, if the truth be told, they can't show the ugly on TV. Kevin and Jodi mentioned in their interview that the production company had a hard time getting 15 mins of airable footage out of 8 hours of filming.

Kate even made a comment on Rachel Ray that gives a little hint into their "real" life. She said something like, "I was on one of my rampages"...she said it very flippantly, like that's just the way it is. But again, remember that her "rampages" can't be shown on TV, so the glimpse you get on the show is actually "the bad" but not "the ugly". Her response to the spanking article was, "I discipline them as I deem appropriate for the situation". I would venture to guess that most people would differ in her opinion of what is appropriate.

Just one example...I previously wrote a post about "gumgate" on my blog. I alluded to the fact that things were much worse than were shown on TV. At some point between filming and the airing of the episode, someone from the crew came to Jodi and said something like, "that gum incident was really something". She had no idea what this person was talking about because other than the telephone conversation with Kate, she didn't know how bad her reaction had been. The person from the crew told Jodi that the scene got so bad at their house that they turned the cameras off and left. Kevin and Jodi mentioned in their interview that the crew told them that they had moral issues with what they were filming.

Things were so bad between Jon and Kate (this was back in Season 1 and 2), that they had to reshoot couch interviews and add in scenes weeks after the filming was done to try to show a more loving couple. They were told to change back into what they were wearing during that episode and "hug in the kitchen". They were told to sit closer on the couch, have Jon put his arm around Kate...say they were "in this together".

A more recent example, I saw a clip this morning of their vows in Hawaii. It makes me sick that they would stand there and lie before God, their children, and the viewers. It was a complete mockery of the sanctity of marriage! All for money, ratings, a trip to Hawaii! Things were so bad at that point last year that they separated shortly after they returned.

They were never the devoted couple that production was trying to portray. It may look like they are so different now or they've changed so much. That's not really true. The viewers weren't shown a true depiction of what things were really like. The turning point was when their two worlds collided. Real life Jon and Kate was exposed and they were forced to deal with it on the show. If those photos hadn't come out, the viewers would have no idea how bad things really are. They still have many episodes that were filmed back before the truth was exposed, and they were planning on continuing the charade as long as possible.

I saw the teaser clip for the show tonight. It's very evident that they are trying to portray Kate as the victim. Jon has changed and she doesn't understand. I'll explain it to you, Kate, Jon decided that he will no longer take your abuse! Kate doesn't know how to have a relationship with anyone without trying to completely control them.

Kate says she will always do what's best for her kids. What a joke!! I have a suggestion. Step back from the spotlight and work on your marriage in private. Give your children their privacy back. Many child psychologists have come forward and stated that the reality show is damaging the children. I guess Kate knows what's best, they are her kids. Give me a break!!!

Jon mentions the tabloids are making things worse. Actually, it made things worse because they were trying to keep the separation quiet so they could continue the charade. They gave up on their marriage months before the tabloids started reporting on them. Now they've been forced to speed up their "reality" show to real time, and they weren't prepared for that. It's horrible to see them using their marital issues as a ploy for ratings. As much as Jon says he doesn't want to be in the public eye and doesn't want to be a part of the show, there he was yesterday, giving an interview and telling people to watch the show to find out the state of their marriage. You can't have it both ways, Jon!! It's evident that both of them will do anything for more money!!

I will not be watching tonight and I hope others decide to make the stand too. Showing the destruction of a real family on TV should not be used for entertainment!


To answer another question that I have been hearing for a long time, "Why isn't anyone doing anything?"---to help the kids or stop the show. Here's the answer...many people are trying. The problem...MONEY!! It's more powerful than I ever imagined!

Paul Petersen, A Minor Consideration

Regarding the Gosselin Children: The Basis for our Concern

There is a predictable quality to the impact of Fame on children, and we ignore it at our peril. This morning I sat in the very same CBS interview chair I occupied 90 days ago to speak about the ill-defined workplace that surrounds the "+ 8" from "Jon & Kate," the same chair where three months ago I warned about the potential for disaster in the lives of the two children from "Slum Dog Millionaire," a warning, I might add, that played out far sooner than I anticipated. Please, when it comes to the consequences of notoriety on children in the spotlight, who has proven to be right more often than wrong?

This is not a recreational debate. The future of Jon and Kate's children is at issue, and while everyone is entitled to their own opinion, not everyone is entitled to alter the facts of this matter.

§ 11.1. Definitions.

The following words and terms, when used in this subchapter, have the following meanings, unless the context clearly indicates otherwise:

Employer--Any person who for his own account or benefit or that of his patrons, directly or indirectly, or through an employee, agent, independent contractor, or any other person employs or permits any minor to work in theatrical productions, musical recitals or concerts, entertainment acts, modeling, radio, television, motion picture making, or in other similar forms or media of entertainment.

Employment--A minor engaged in a performance shall be deemed employed, if any person, including the performer, his parent or teacher, receives remuneration from the performance or if any performer in the production is paid for performing.

Pennsylvania does, in fact, have laws and regulations governing the protection of Minors involved in the performing arts. Five years ago, when "Jon & Kate + 8" first arrived in our living rooms, it was a far cry from today's slickly-mounted presentation. Jon and Kate were different people then, and we all sympathized with the extraordinary pressures they were under with six preemies to care for, and a set of adorable twins to nurture as well. No one, including A Minor Consideration, was worried about child labor laws. The initial situation was almost certainly "news" by anyone's definition.

Things have changed. The old Gosselin house became a television studio. Blood-relatives were shunted to the sidelines. The 'freebies' started to come in bunches, from plastic surgery to family vacations. TLC began to brag about ratings and the lurking evil of public relations came out of the closet. Big money was suddenly on the table. Appearance fees and book deals materialized, as did a much larger house in which to film the Gosselins, plus private schools and a paid household staff to "manage" the brood.

"Jon & Kate + 8" became a commercial enterprise, spawning loads of imitators on the network, and luring marginally competent people into believing that bearing a boatload of infants was a ticket to fame and fortune. America, sadly, tragically, soaked this up without giving a thought to the impact on the lives of the children exposed to the ravenous maw of the media.

Until now.

Could it be true that no one gave a thought to the status of the children because after all is said and done they are the property of their parents? Besides, just being on television ought to be good enough for a kid, even eight of 'em, right?

Just look what we've done by going along with this fiction that reality shows are somehow different than scripted television shows. Not only have we deluded ourselves that the presence of cameras have no impact on the participants, we've somehow suspended disbelief when it comes to the calculated deliberations of the production team that puts all the elements together, deliberations in the case of "J&K+8" that involve the admitted participation of Jon and Kate.

When the Writers Guild of America went out on strike last year one of their demands was that the writers of reality television be covered under the Basic Agreement. Keep that in mind.

If the sad but predictable saga of the two children sent back to the slums after starring in "Slum Dog Millionaire" has any meaning to you, if you followed the denials and tortured explanations of that film's producers and director, you will have a better understanding of the "spin" being issued by TLC and Jon and Kate Gosselin who now claim that they spared no effort to protect the children. TLC, ignoring the obvious marital problems, now says the filming of the children is limited to a couple of days per week and the cameras no longer film in the kids' bedrooms.

No mention is made of the images already broadcast and cemented for all time on the Internet. That ship, you see, has already sailed and sunk.

This is a monumental mess, my friends, and a window into the true state of childhood in America these days. Dozens of innocent children are currently featured on so-called reality television shows, and hundreds more are potential fodder in hostile jurisdictions all over the world.

It's time to put the reality genie back in the bottle. This plea for a return to sanity isn't about this author, or even the gaggle of former kid stars who have been trying to share the lessons of their lives with you for decades.

We look forward to the results of the formal investigations now going on in Pennsylvania and California. Subpoenas have been issued in California and witnesses are coming forward in both states. It's hard to put the wheels of justice in motion, but once they're moving they are impossible to stop.

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What about the Kids?

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The Children ARE Working

I just read an article on USA Today.com and I feel the need to respond to a few things. You can read the entire article HERE.

Eileen O'Neill, president and general manager of TLC, made a few statements that need to be addressed.

First:

In a statement, TLC said it "fully complies with all applicable laws and regulations. Jon & Kate Plus 8 is no exception. For an extended period of time, we have been engaged in cooperative discussions and supplied all requested information to the Pennsylvania Department of Labor."

Notice the carefully worded sentence...TLC fully complies with all APPLICABLE laws and regulations. This is exactly the point that many people are trying to make! There are NO laws that apply! This is the "dirty little secret" in reality TV. I'm not just talking about Jon and Kate plus 8. This applies to ALL children WORKING in "reality" TV. The industry wants everyone to believe that the children aren't working. They want you to believe this is all innocent and the cameras are just following these families around and capturing spontaneous moments. The kids are having fun, just doing what they would normally do.

They don't want people to know that it takes many, many hours, sometimes days to film enough footage to make one 30 min episode. I read in another article that TLC said they are only filming 2 hrs/day...2 days/wk. That is absolutely NOT TRUE! Look back at the episodes and see for yourself. Look at the list of episodes and count how many they've aired over the last 2 yrs. They are in Season 5, but the series didn't debut until April 2007. That's almost 100 episodes in 2 years time. Seasons 2-5 have been running back to back. There has been no break!

The children in reality TV ARE working. Think about the number of people who are involved in order to make a TV show--writers, producers, directors, camera/sound crew. Look at the credits at the end of the show, it's all there! All of these people, including their parents, are working and getting a paycheck. BUT since the show is labeled "reality", the children aren't considered to be working. They aren't getting paid, and therefore aren't protected under child labor laws.

What Can I Do?

My inbox is being flooded with emails asking, "What Can I do?" It's so encouraging to know that our message is getting out there, and people are realizing that children in reality TV need laws to protect them.

Paul Petersen established the organization A Minor Consideration to support child stars and other child laborers through legislation, family education, and personal intervention and counseling for those in crisis. I'm in contact with Mr. Petersen and asked him where we go from here.

I wanted to share his response, and encourage everyone to join together. Let's keep the momentum going in a positive direction, and help get these laws passed so that ALL children will have protection.

Hi Julie,

I'm proud to say we are the leading advocate for National Legislation (and, if you heard Bob Edwards Show, we're after Pennsylvania, too, for failing to apply their own laws!). You should also know that we're after Octo-Mom and my personal lawsuit will be heard in Superior Court on June 22nd 2009.

Donations for A Minor Consideration...Fed ID: 95-4585623...can be mailed to:
A Minor Consideration
15003 S Denker Avenue
Gardena, CA
90247

We at AMC are well down the road to get National Legislation, but we need all the support we can get...especially from an Army of perfectly normal people who are tired of being lied to and having their televisions filled up with scripted reality shows that want only to exploit children.

Here is my essay from last year warning about the current troubles that bedevil the Gosselin family: http://www.minorcon.org/jon_kate1.html

Have people email me at this address. I will read and respond as I have for the past 19 years.

We really and truly are the ONLY national group with credibility and a proven track record in Legislation that has been hammering on this exploitation of working kids...as only former kid stars can know...and now a large and growing number of innocent children caught in the maw of so-called reality television.

Tell folks to come to our site...donate if they can...and we'll help them marshall themselves into a potent Army.

We are ALL "mad as Hell," and now that the conspiracy has been uncovered it is time to act.

Both theatrical unions (Screen Actors Guild and AFTRA) have voted unanimously at their national Board meetings to pursue national legislation to protect all children, everywhere.

Let's do this now.

Fraternally,
Paul Petersen

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Kevin and Jodi on The Early Show

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The Early Show

Kevin and Jodi will be giving a live interview tomorrow morning on The Early Show (CBS). The segment should be airing around 7:30am EST.

I also want to acknowledge all of the emails I am receiving. I can't respond to all of them, but I want everyone to know that I am reading them and sharing them with Jodi. I have received the most heartfelt stories and poems. I am truly touched that so many have taken the time to write, and I want you all to know that the support we are receiving is definitely a bright spot during this difficult time.

Many people have asked what they can do. My best advice right now is to stop watching! I posted this on another blog over the weekend, but I think it is worth repeating.

I made a personal decision long ago to do what I can to give those children the privacy and respect that they deserve. I refuse to watch and participate in something that I feel so strongly against.

We should not be able to watch the destruction of a real family. It is a little disturbing to me that so many people see this as entertainment. These are real children, not characters on a show. I didn't watch last night, but I did see a brief clip on one the news programs this morning. I am disgusted that they would show such a tender moment between Jon and his daughter just to pull at the viewer's heartstrings. That conversation should have been a private moment between a father and daughter. Each person who watched last night stole something from the children that they'll never get back. They deserve respect, privacy and security. Their own parents have taken that away from them, but we can give it back by letting TLC know that we won't watch it any longer. If Jon and Kate care so little for their family that they refuse to end the show, the viewers can end it for them. If you want to help the children, then stop watching!

Jon and Kate should put FAMILY first

BostonHerald.com:

Both Jon and Kate Gosselin, stars of TLC’s “Jon & Kate Plus 8,” are dodging allegations of infidelity. Family members are turning the screws in tell-all interviews. Kate has told People she can envision a divorce.

TLC did not provide a screener of the one-hour episode airing at 9 p.m. Everyone who works there would have to be criminally stupid not to know that tonight’s episode is likely to draw record ratings for the channel.

In a preview posted at tlc.discovery.com, sitting alone on a loveseat, Jon acknowledges the recent turmoil.

“Kate and I have been obviously going through a lot of stuff and discussing what’s best for our kids,” he says.

Here’s a crazy idea: Cancel the show.

If family truly comes first, lock the camera crew out. If TLC balks at letting them out of their contracts, go public and shame the channel into giving them back their privacy.

“My kids are the reason why I’ve always done everything,” Kate says.
Here’s a chance to prove it.

But reclaiming even a sliver of privacy might jeopardize the perks they’ve grown to depend on - the hair plugs for him, the tummy tuck for her, the trips for all of them. Some viewers have found that sense of entitlement repulsive to watch.

It’s one thing for adults to sign up for a reality show, it’s another thing to subject their young children to that kind of scrutiny. These kids are essentially the cutest indentured servants of a growing financial empire in Pennsylvania. Where do they go if they don’t want to be filmed? It’s hard to step out on your family when you are 5.



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Child Labor Laws and Reality TV

E Online:

About Jon & Kate Plus 8: I wonder if the kids are protected under child labor laws, or if they should be?
—Miracle Aimee, via Twitter

You'd think that any parents who drag their kids into their reality-TV money grab would face a smackdown from some sort of child-protection law. But no. That would be way too civilized.

No, Jon and Kate Gosselin's plus-eight do not fall under the kinds of kiddie labor laws enjoyed by peers who work on scripted film or TV sets, attorneys tell me. Here's why...

...courtesy of attorney Paul Moretti, who served as an on-set film safety expert before moving into his own labor law practice.

If anyone tried to take this issue to a judge, Moretti says, "chances are, courts would say this doesn't count as labor, because the children are doing things they would be doing whether there was a camera or not.

"Show producers are not taking the kids away from their studies, making them memorize lines, or taking them away from socialization," says Moretti, who also answers legal questions for JustAnswer.com.

"The law would probably say that when the children are sitting at home using a coloring book or going to a soccer game, and they're being filmed, they're not doing someone else's business. They're doing their own business."

Translation: When a TV show has a script, kids can only work a set number of hours per day, they must have a certain number of breaks per day, and they must have on-set tutors to ensure their studies do not slide.

A reality-show camera can track children from morning to night, parents can rake in wagonloads of cash, and Moretti knows of no laws that can change that on behalf of the child.

One other thing to consider: Attorney Lisa Pierson Weinberger of Greenberg Glusker points out that kids on shows like these might not even be getting any money—thus their time in front of the camera isn't "labor."

As for your second question: Yes, Moretti says, he thinks there should be a change in the law. Or, at the very least, child welfare guidelines should be reconsidered, other experts say.

"The question this really brings to focus is: In this reality-oriented society, are children as adequately protected from adults as they need to be?" muses Regent University law professor Kathleen McKee. "I think they are not. Kudos to your reader for bringing up this issue."

So there you go. And oh: If you're wondering whether I agree with these experts—you bet I do. One hundred percent.

http://www.eonline.com/uberblog/ask_the_answer_bitch/b125497_do_child_labor_laws_apply_jon_kates_kids.html

When a Family becomes a Business

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Update

I am overwhelmed and so grateful for the outpouring of support. Thank you for taking the time to write. I'm making sure that Jodi knows there are so many people out there who are supporting them.

This is not a pleasant situation. Actually, I believe that this would be every family's worst nightmare! I know everyone has an opinion and feels that they have a right to voice it. Please be sensitive to the people who are actually living this. Jon and Kate's decisions are affecting many people who didn't ask for this--first and foremost--their own children.

I am asking everyone to please be patient. Most of you have no idea how this industry works. I know there are many questions, but the truth is, some people will never be satisfied with the information they are given. EVERYTHING does not need to be made public.

Yes, I know there is so much out there already, but don't assume that everything will be/has been made known. Everyone is just going to have to accept the fact that YOU don't know what's best because you don't have ALL of the information, and you probably never will.

The easy thing to do would be to remain silent. No one wants to open themselves up to public scrutiny, but family means everything to Kevin and Jodi. They are not going to take the easy way out, and turn their backs during a time when their family needs them more than ever.

People Magazine

There is so much that I want to say about this article, but I think Kate did a pretty good job confirming the reasons that Kevin and Jodi had to speak up. She never ceases to amaze me! Just when I think that Kate has stooped to the lowest level possible, she outdoes herself. Has she completely lost touch with reality?

So much for "handling it privately", as she stated late last week. I am disgusted that she is continuing to spread her lies, and discussing very private matters to the media. She completely throws her husband under the bus in order to pursue her own agenda. It is becoming more obvious that she will stop at nothing to get what she wants. She is setting herself up for sympathy and letting everyone know that the show must go on.

A quote from Kate in the article: "Somewhere along the line, he [Jon] changed his focus. I don't know why, because my focus never changed."

It's true that Kate's focus hasn't changed. Doing the show was never about "just making ends meet" or "just paying for college". Kate did her research and set her plan into motion before the sextuplets were even born. She is using the show--although it's far from reality--as a means to other opportunities--her new "career". Kate will never be satisfied. It will never be enough for her. They have reportedly made millions so far and she will keep going without any thought of what this is doing to her family.

It's very interesting that everyone is outraged with Nadya Suleman. Who do you think her role model is? Kate is no different. It's time to turn the focus on ALL children who are being exploited by their parents.

Interview with Kevin and Jodi

A quote from Kate, May 13, 2009:

"This is certainly not what I envisioned I was signing up for," Kate Gosselin said Wednesday during an appearance at the Frauenthal Center, The Muskegon Chronicle reported.

"When I see magazines in stores it's really difficult. It amazes me there is an industry that follows you around and writes stories about you.

"It destroys peoples' lives. I need you to know, don't believe what you read unless you hear it from that person."

Sorry, Kate, but the tabloids have not destroyed your life. You have been living a charade for a very long time, and they are just calling you out on your lies.

I guess you weren't told who the source was when you were informed about the newest stories being released. So let's all follow Kate's advice and listen to what Kevin and Jodi have to say.

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For the Children

I just wanted to thank all of those who have already voiced their support for Kevin and Jodi. They would not have spoken out unless they felt that it was absolutely necessary in order so save the Gosselin children from a horrific situation. I'm sickened to hear that Figure 8 is continuing to film and TLC and everyone else involved will profit off of the destruction of a family. Kate will stop at nothing to get what she wants. She has a team of people protecting her and helping her spin her lies to keep this nightmare going. She is focused on her new "career" and she won't let anyone stand in her way, including her husband and children.

I'm hoping that the upcoming stories will help connect the dots and shed some light on why I came forward last year to voice my concerns for the situation. Although the revelations are sad, and in some ways unbelievable, the children are living a life that is much worse than will be printed in any publication.

I am hopeful that this is just the beginning and that more people realize that this child exploitation has to stop!

Update From Jodi

Jodi is thankful for the support that she is receiving, but at the same time, it is a constant reminder of the past. She feels like she is now at a turning point, but with the recent media coverage, it's impossible for her to move forward when more and more people are finding my blog and approaching her in real life. She appreciates the encouragement, but knows this is what she needs to do.

I am removing most of the posts on my blog to hopefully give her a chance to continue to move forward.

What is Exploitation?

It seems that many are confused about what exploitation really is. Exploitation is the utilization of another person for selfish purposes. The issue has nothing to do with how the kids are being treated. It has nothing to do with whether they are clothed, fed and able to have "life experiences". Just because they may "appear" to be happy at this point in their life, has nothing to do with whether or not they are being exploited.

The children are being put on display; their lives are filmed and shown for the world to watch and analyze. The children are working to support a lifestyle that their parents want AND they don't have a choice. Jon and Kate say that they are "working from home" and the show is their JOB. If this statement is believed to be true, then the children are working too. I don't see any other way around it. The real problem with this scenario is that Jon and Kate's employment is completely contingent upon their children also working.

It's been at least a year now since Jon quit his job. I don't believe that he has ever worked from home in some type of computer field. He's had trouble keeping a job, he has very minimal experience and even less motivation. How many different "job titles" has he claimed to have over the past year? The statement on the show that he is "working from home" in the IT field is about as honest as the fact that they have to "save up" for special outings or Kate spends her days cooking and cleaning or she is "exhausted" from being a mom of eight with little help.

The show is not just supplementing their income. The children are supporting their family. It is no longer a day in the life of a family with multiples. The cameras are not just following them around and capturing spontaneous moments. They are now filming 3-4 days/week to make 30-40 episodes/season. Season 3 ran January-June and they jumped right into Season 4 without a break. This is a business venture, not a documentary. Look at TLC's statement to CNN :

"Because of the show, the kids and the family have economic security and the luxury of a mom who can stay at home and raise them."

Does economic security make it right? I can think of many examples where money is the end result, but that doesn't make the means of receiving it right.

The show is about making money--bottom line. It is staged and edited for entertainment. The children are prompted by the producer to do certain things to make the episode more interesting or help create the storyline. Their lives have turned into a TV show. Endorsements and sponsorships dictate what toys they play with, the food they eat, the juice they drink, the clothes they wear, the products they use and the places they go. Is there anything that is real anymore?

This reminds me of the advice given by the surviving Dionne Quintuplets shortly after the birth of the McCaughey septuplets in 1997.

Dear Bobbi and Kenny,

If we emerge momentarily from the privacy we have sought all our adult lives, it is only to send a message to the McCaughey family. We three would like you to know we feel a natural affinity and tenderness for your children. We hope your children receive more respect than we did. Their fate should be no different from that of other children. Multiple births should not be confused with entertainment, nor should they be an opportunity to sell products.

Our lives have been ruined by the exploitation we suffered at the hands of the government of Ontario, our place of birth. We were displayed as a curiosity three times a day for millions of tourists. To this day we receive letters from all over the world. To all those who have expressed their support in light of the abuse we have endured, we say thank you. And to those who would seek to exploit the growing fame of these children, we say beware.

We sincerely hope a lesson will be learned from examining how our lives were forever altered by our childhood experience. If this letter changes the course of events for these newborns, then perhaps our lives will have served a higher purpose.

Sincerely, Annette, Cecile and Yvonne Dionne

As published in Time Magazine, December 1, 1997.

Do we ignore the warning of those who have experienced exploitation first hand?

The debate shouldn't be whether the kids are "acting" or whether they have more "things and experiences" because of the show. Do you really think matching designer clothes make children happy? Are they even going to remember the trips they've taken so far? They are growing up in the public eye. They are being used for profit by the network, corporations and their own parents. IMO, what they are dealing with, now and in the future, is even worse than child actors. Their home is the studio. They aren't playing a character, they are the characters.

Of course there are children out there who "have it worse", but does that mean we turn our backs on these children? Don't all children deserve privacy, security and the same protection? Do the Gosselin children deserve less than other children in the entertainment industry just because their show is labeled "reality"?

Is everyone going to be shocked 10-15 yrs down the road when the damage is exposed and the children are able to speak for themselves and share their own stories? Is continuing the series worth the risk? Do we ignore the warnings of those who are speaking out based on their own personal experiences? History has taught us valuable lessons. Do we wait until the damage is revealed to realize this is wrong?

CNN Clip

CNN and Headline News have been running a clip specifically addressing the exploitation of the Gosselin children on "Jon and Kate Plus Eight". Jon and Kate declined to be interviewed, but Paul Petersen spoke about his concerns for the children.



Thank you CNN and Mr. Petersen for bringing attention to the concerns many share. Gosselins Without Pity was mentioned in the story and has also been instrumental in raising awareness of the exploitation of the Gosselin children.

Summary of Events

I've noticed that there are some new readers thanks to the recent article in People Magazine. I thought I'd summarize the events that involve Jodi into one post so that those who are new won't have to read the entire blog to understand what happened. If you are interested, you can find more details in my previous entries.

A Summary of Events: Where is Aunt Jodi?

None of this will make any sense if you don't have an understanding of how Kate works. It's hard for me to fathom that someone could view people this way, but this is how it works with her. People are objects. Kate doesn't "do" relationships. If you are of some use to Kate, then she'll use you for that purpose. When that need has been met or someone better comes along, she's done with you. Most times there is no reason given and no discussion. If you question her, make her upset in some way, don't do things her way--you're done. It doesn't matter how long you've known her, what you've done for her or even if you are family. She uses her children to get what she wants. The loss of a relationship is the "punishment" for anyone who crosses her.

MONEY is not and never has been the issue for Jodi and Kevin. I know how much Jodi and Kevin have helped over the years. Spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially--they have been there since the twins were born. Jodi would drive an hour each way (on a regular basis) to take care of the twins while Kate was at work. Jodi had two very young children of her own, but that never stopped her from being there when Kate needed her. Although Jodi's youngest daughter is only one month older than the sextuplets, she help out so much that J&K moved into Kevin and Jodi's neighborhood--only a few houses away. Jodi's youngest son was born a few months after J&K moved, and Jodi still did all she could to be there for the children.

The show meant NOTHING to Jodi and Kevin. They were doing what they had always done--taking care of the children. Jodi knew that she had to be seen as "useful" to Kate to be able to have a relationship with the kids. So she allowed the cameras in her home and she watched the kids on a regular basis, and it wasn't just for filming. She never expected to be paid and would never have even taken money if it had been offered by Kate. They are family and that's what you do for family (or should do). You love them and support them to the best of your ability without expecting anything in return. I know that about Jodi and Kevin because they are MY family.

The contract--there were several things that happened around the same time. When Season 1 was filmed, it was done over a longer amount of time, Jon was still working and there was about a 6 month lag in airing the episodes. There were only about 8 episodes and no one had any idea what was going to happen. The same with Season 2. There wasn't a rigorous filming schedule and the show wasn't their only source of income. Things started to change as Season 3 progressed. There was a big difference in filming when comparing the previous 2 seasons. They became more popular and the schedule became more demanding. They started making big money and the fame and money changed them to some extent. They no longer had to work, they could make demands and were given whatever they wanted. Egos started to get bigger. Jodi was very involved (although not always on camera) and started doing some traveling with them. She saw first hand how all of this was affecting the kids. Jodi talked with the producer and J&K about her concerns. I believe this was the REAL issue. Kate saw Jodi as a threat to the show. So I think in Kate's mind, it came to a point that Jodi needed to be replaced. This was also the same time that Kate hired her manager and that's when everything changed! Kate decided to turn her family into a business and NO ONE was going to stand in her way.

I believe the contract was just an easy excuse. Maybe Kate thought that if she refused, then Jodi would just walk away and then she could blame her for being there for money. When Jodi and Kevin were approached, they were told not to tell Kate because she had refused to allow them to be compensated before Season 2, they didn't believe it. Jodi and Kevin didn't feel comfortable making a deal behind Kate's back, so Kevin asked her. Kate immediately accused Jodi and Kevin of being there for the money. This is what is so upsetting! Not the fact that she refused to allow them to be paid, but the things that she said to Kevin's face. Of course it was hurtful, but the point is, Jodi knew that if she wanted to have a relationship with the children, she had to go along with Kate and still be useful.

There was NO fight over money. Jodi accepted Kate's wishes and told Kate--herself--that she didn't care about the contract or money. She just wanted to continue what they had been doing all along.

Kate said NO--she was hiring someone else. So at that point, Jodi knew she was out. Not just off the show, but out of their lives. That's the way it works. The network would now pay for someone else, so Jodi was no longer of any use to Kate. I know that sounds harsh and some want to believe there was some big family feud, but that isn't the case at all.

We waited 2 months before I made my blog public. I wanted to make sure that what Jodi thought would happen, would actually take place. She was right. Kate cut out the last family members who had any direct contact with them. I knew that as long as Jodi was still involved, that she would be an advocate for the children. The children now have NO ONE to speak on their behalf. J&K have said "Our life is the show and the show is our life". These are their own words. J&K have stated that there are no family relationships because those people don't want to be filmed. Does that even make any sense? They have no life outside of their show. That's why they have no other relationships. They have completed isolated themselves and are now
surrounded by people who are making money off of them and who are looking out for the best interest of the business not the children.

Coming forward for me has nothing to do with liking or disliking Jon and Kate. I find the situation dangerous for the children. I'm thankful that Paul Petersen is now involved. It has been proven over time that parents of child actors can't be trusted to make sound decisions when it comes to finances or what's best for the child. That's why laws have been made. All children in reality TV deserve the same protection. I want to do my part to help raise awareness and hopefully laws will be made to protect other children in the future.

Mr. Petersen has posted another article addressing the show on his website A Minor Consideration .

Oh, They're So Cute
Kids and Animals on TV


Congratulations, America. This past week saw 31 new little stars drop into our living rooms with the premieres of "Kids by the Dozen" and "17 Kids and Counting" on The Learning Channel. You can hear the ooohs and aaahs in Timbuktu. The scramble is on to learn each of the children's names, their likes and dislikes, and where they fit in the family's pecking order. Add to this childhood menagerie the on-going exploits of the Gosselin Family from "Jon & Kate +8" as revealed in People Magazine's four-page spread of that family's trip to Maui, Hawaii, and you'd think television has turned into amateur home movies.

Only these shows aren't really home movies, are they? Of course they're not. They are professionally photographed and edited productions that employ scores of adults that you never see on-camera. The Parents who have permitted the cameras to chronicle their various families are being compensated, some quite handsomely, and some less so. If you chanced to watch the excruciating "Jon & Kate" episode that showed the family engaged in an endless photo shoot for Good Housekeeping magazine's cover (coming soon) you might have noticed that all this so-called "fun" looks a lot like work.

We all have a soft spot for kids and animals. It's a biological imperative. We are biologically compelled to notice and care for children, to protect and husband animals. They are means by which we got from there to here.

One thing you can say about all these media darlings is that most appear to be remarkably normal given their unusual circumstances…so far. Today's kids see the media in a different light than we adults because they are immersed in its impact from birth, with or without cameras present. The question is, other than their numbers and the fact that they were born into large families, what part of being "normal" can prepare or protect a child from the effects of celebrity?

The American Humane Association, which came into existence back in the 1870's to advocate for children, but is better known as the protectors of the animals we see in the media, has this to say about the welfare of animals in film production:

*Animals should be trained and prepared in advance to perform the required action.

*Costuming and/or props shall be made available to American Humane for inspection prior to filming. Animals shall be adequately conditioned and trained to wear or use all costumes or props. Costuming and/or props shall be comfortable, provide ease of movement, and shall not restrict the animal’s breathing or cause the animal to overheat.

*Tie-downs, waist ties and hobbles shall not be used on animals not properly trained to wear them.

*American Humane recognizes that unique or unforeseen situations may arise that might require on-site judgment differing from these Guidelines. American Humane Certified Animal Safety Representatives will make that judgment in the interest of the safety and welfare of the animal.

*Training and/or cueing equipment such as collars, leashes, muzzles, whips and other devices must be used safely and humanely under the supervision of American Humane Certified Animal Safety Representatives.

See full details at: http://www.americanhumane.org/

You can see where this is going, I hope. Producers of popular entertainment who utilize animals in their work do not cross the American Humane Association or the Certified Animal Safety Representatives that travel the world to protect animals in film. When the AHA says, "No animal was killed or injured in the making of this film" you can believe it.

In other pages on this website we have put together a Compare and Contrast chart so inquisitive people can see how the State of California's regulations concerning children in entertainment (the best this country has on the books, by the way) compare to the global Industry protections afforded those birds and beasts over whom we have dominion. It can be found here: www.minorcon.org/regulations.html.

At the risk of angering those souls who continue to believe that parents always do what's best for their children, let's see what the Industry has to say when it comes to Casting Guidelines for children utilized in the creation of popular entertainment:








Notice that space? It's there for a reason. No such guidelines exist for even considering what sort of child is eligible for participation in the entertainment industry. If such a guideline existed to determine what sort of child one might see on television or in movies, do you think it would start off with normal?

…To be continued

Don't Shoot the Messenger

For the child exploitation supporters: You may not agree with the reasons I felt that I needed to come forward, but I ask you to think long and hard about what you are actually defending. You don't have to agree with what I have said or why, how, when, etc. If you don't like what you read, then stop reading and move on. People have to be intentionally searching out information on the internet to run across my blog. I'm not forcing anyone to read it and as I said at the beginning, I'm not trying to convince anyone of anything. I'm making information available for those who are looking. Everyone can form their own opinions based on what they have seen and read.

I'd like to address some things I've seen being discussed about my blog:

"Airing dirty laundry"--this logic makes no sense to me. I have only responded to things that have been made public by J&K. For those who say I have given "every detail", that's just ridiculous! I've known the family for 12+ yrs, and I haven't said a word about anything that has happened in all of that time. I haven't given details about Kate's relationship with her parents, sisters, or past things that involve Jodi/Kevin. I have only scratched the surface with information about the show or behind the scenes events. It's not like I am approaching everyone I come in contact with and ask them if they watch the show and then start dishing the dirt. I am putting some information about a few issues in a blog. I have chosen very specific things to write about because they all relate back to the reason that these children need laws to protect them. Nothing and no one can stop J&K from getting what they want, even if it is at the expense of the children's well-being. Now or in the future.

"We don't know J&K's side"--WHAT?? This one really gets to me! I am responding to THEIR side of the story. They have a TV show, website, TLC website, speaking engagements, talk show appearances, etc. They have the forum to address whatever they want/however they want. Many people have started catching them in their lies or have a gut feeling that things aren't adding up while watching the show. They are sending people to the internet to search for answers.

Let's look at the "Burning Questions" in the recent article in People. They had the opportunity to tell the truth, but they chose not to. I am responding to what THEY have said publicly.

Do They Have Any Help?

Answer: A cleaning lady comes every other week, and a young woman occasionally helps with errands. Beyond that, "this is my personal chef," says Jon of Kate, "my personal housekeeper too."

The Truth: They have a cleaning service AND someone who also does spot cleaning/organizing in between. They have someone who irons and puts away their laundry. Jon has said that Jenny is on the payroll for 30 hrs/week to help with the kids and errands. If they don't have a personal chef, then I wonder who prepared the dinner that my parents ate (leftovers)when they were watching Jodi's kids when she was traveling for the show? Why were they told that the meal was prepared by their personal chef? Who made and delivered the food when Jodi and Kevin were watching the kids while J&K were away for the hair plugs? Who prepares a weeks worth of meals and delivers them along with wine and fresh cut flowers? Who brings bags of groceries/produce from the whole foods store?

As I said before, why not just be honest about the amount of help that they have? Or even say nothing. Why pretend that they do it all alone? Why pretend that they clip coupons, use layaway and save up for special outings? Why try to make people believe they are just a normal family who is struggling to get by? So the viewers can relate to them? I would venture to guess that most of the viewers have never had cosmetic procedures and the number of outings/vacations that we have seen over the last year. I'd guess that most of the viewers wouldn't be shopping for property worth well over a million dollars.

As I said before, being a mother of twin and sextuplets would be a piece of cake if you didn't have to do any of the things that most mothers do. And now, just because Kate is the mother of 8, that makes her an expert on cooking and organizing? I have yet to see an original recipe or organizing idea from her. What a joke!

Where Are The Kids' Grandparents?

Answer: "My mom lives far away," explains Jon, whose father died in 2005. "We just don't see her as much now, and Kate's parents choose not to be involved." The couple's siblings-she is one of five kids, he is one of three-also don't want to be in the spotlight. "People don't always understand us," says Kate. "Even friends, relatives, family, neighbors."

The Truth: Although I'm not going to get into the specifics of the family dynamics, I can assure you that most of this statement is not true. You now know the truth behind why Jodi and Kevin have been cut off. Just because others may not want to be in the "spotlight" shouldn't mean that they can't have a relationship with the kids "off camera".

The truth in their answer, "People don't always understand us".

"15 mins of fame"--if that were the case, don't you think I would have gone out and tried to sell my story? I put information on a blog. This certainly hasn't been a pleasant experience for me in some ways, but I have also found a lot of support that I wasn't expecting. I knew what some of the responses were going to be and that's why I chose the name for my blog. People love to "shoot the messenger", and I knew I would be the target of alot of hate.

"You're just jealous"--what is there to be jealous of--having 8 kids? Having a production company dictate my life? Having no friends or family relationships? Having no privacy? I can't think of one thing they have that's worth the price the kids are paying. I don't need to have 8 kids to know that I would never sell my children's privacy to the highest bidder. There are more important things in life than fame and fortune. J&K are putting their kids on display in exchange for a lifestyle that they wanted but couldn't afford. The children are working and supporting their parents. They aren't the first family to have 8 kids. They aren't the only family with 2 sets of multiples. They aren't the only family with sextuplets. They did not NEED the show to survive. There is no reason that they couldn't both work to support their family. That's what productive members of society do.

"Until you walk in their shoes..."--I don't need to have twins and sextuplets to see that their interactions with each other and the kids are damaging. It's ridiculous to compare stress. Their behavior is excused because they are stressed by having 8 kids? Stress is stress no matter what the circumstances are.

What about the single parent who is working to support their family and juggling it all on their own? What about the families who have both parents working (some with multiple jobs) and are still struggling to make ends meet? What about the military families who are separated from their spouses and/or children for months or sometimes a year at a time? What about families who have to deal with disabilities or chronic illnesses? I can think of many situations that cause stress on families. Is there anyone who doesn't have some sort of stress in their life?

Does that give everyone the right to react to their stress the way J&K do? I'm offended that the media tries to make us believe their relationship is "real" and "honest" and a normal depiction of what most marriages are. You could have cameras on me 24/7 and would never hear me speak to my husband the way Kate talks to Jon. I'm not saying our marriage is perfect, but we have a mutual respect for each other. There is a huge problem in society if their marriage is an example of what is "normal".

A mother's hurtful words can damage a child for a lifetime. One of the reasons I stopped watching the show was because I couldn't stand to see the way Jon and Kate treat each other and their children. We're not just seeing their worst moments all edited together. The show is a true depiction of their relationships and they have said that they are the same with and without the cameras. I know that their behavior is even worse than what is shown on TV. Eight children is no excuse!

Reality Check

The National Enquirer has printed another story about the show. This time the focus is on the children and the dangers being addressed by child advocate Paul Petersen.

"It's time for Jon and Kate to demonstrate true character and call a stop to this," said Petersen. "Their show has turned into a dangerous distortion of childhood and parenting."

You can read the entire article HERE.

A Minor Consideration

Paul Petersen has spoken again regarding the show:

"Jon & Kate Plus 8" is not the same as "Meerkat Manor." Children are not the same as animals being filmed in their natural state. There are, or at least there should be, rules when children are employed [or participate in] the Entertainment Business. Make no mistake, after four years of their most private moments being broadcast to a nation of voyeurs, the eight children who make up the "+ 8" are 'performers' in every sense of the term. They need and deserve the protection of the Law. But what if there are no Laws? Children in the entertainment business, in case you didn't know, are exempt from Federal Child labor law, and have been since 1938. Pennsylvania has no published child labor laws for kids in entertainment. Ask yourself the following: If anyone in the Gosselin home is being paid, who owns the money? Are there limits to the number of hours a child may work per day, and anyplace they can't be filmed? In the end there is only one question worth asking. "What will become of these children?"

Paul Petersen established the organization A Minor Consideration to support child stars and other child laborers through legislation, family education, and personal intervention and counseling for those in crisis.

Here's what Mr. Petersen has to say:


Time to Exit, Jon & Kate

August 27, 2008

The future of the “Plus Eight” is the real issue, Jon and Kate, and it’s time for you to listen. Your children are changing right before our eyes, and all of the changes aren’t healthy.

Consider us your Fire Alarm. The “former kid stars” that belong to AMC know this world better than anyone. We were very tolerant when “Jon and Kate + 8” first started, intrigued and sympathetic as we witnessed a loving mad house struggling to cope with an almost unimaginable blessing.

But, you know the old curse, “Be careful what you wish for because you might just get it.” Raising children is not theater, and we don’t care how much money is on the table. Little kids need secrets and silences, especially as they enter the world of schooling and making new friends.

Please examine the motives of all the people who give you advice and stand to make a buck off your children…including yourselves…especially you two. Not all change is good. For those of us who know what to look for, Fame has a subtle but corrupting effect on everyone it touches, and it has touched your children…and you.

It’s not too late to limit the damage. Remove the cameras from your house, dismiss the film crew and tell them thanks. Whatever deals you have made can be undone, and we have the lawyers to help you. Disavow any and all contracts.

What started as a documentary has turned into dangerous distortion of childhood, parenting, and what passes for acceptable risk in the age of the Internet. The bulls-eyes you have painted on the foreheads of your children will only grow larger with time.

Parenting is not now nor has it ever been a spectator sport.

My Motives

Although the refusal to allow Jodi to be compensated is ridiculous, the real reason members of the family are upset is the fact that Jodi is being replaced as the caregiver. Jodi was a voice for the children. She actually approached those involved with filming/producing and questioned them about things she was concerned about involving the children. Jon and Kate are too busy striking the next deal to even notice.

Jodi made sure that the camera time in her home was limited, so the children could relax and have a break. Her only motive in being involved with the show was to be an advocate for the children. She was the voice of reason. Her home was a calm getaway for the kids. She is a loving, nurturing, caring person, and above all, she is their FAMILY. Now the kids will be watched by a stranger in their own home, with no escape from the filming/"studio". No place to go to take a break.

It's my opinion that their home is their "work" and I can only imagine that it's hard for them to separate the two. They are not playing a part or pretending to be a character on a show. This is their LIFE. Child actors at least know the difference between their "work" and their home. They would leave the set and go HOME. It is two distinct places. Now the only place the children had to go has been taken away from them.

Jodi also voiced her concerns to Kate, and I'm sure Kate didn't appreciate any other opinions. Kate has cut out everyone from their lives who would have a "right" to voice their opinions--people who actually see all of the off camera things that go on. People who see the way these kids are being affected. Maybe she doesn't want to be held accountable to anyone? If many people think what they see on camera is bad, imagine what it's like when the cameras are off. I know some want to believe that they are just choosing the worst things to show on TV, but that isn't the case at all. Sure, there is editing involved, but they can only edit what they are given.

There is NO ONE left to stand up for what's best for these children. The only people they have to get advice from are people who are making money off of them. Their "hired" people don't care about the kids as much as they care about making money. Any advice they receive will be in the interest of the business, not the children.

I'm just heartbroken that the kids have now lost one of the most important people in their lives. Someone who has always put their needs above her own. The only person who was left to be an advocate for the children has been cut off. That is the main reason that I feel compelled to speak out. IMO, keeping quiet will cause more harm than coming forward and bringing these issues to light.

Twisted-Part 2

When will the kids be the priority? I think she's forgetting that THEY are the reason she has all of these opportunities. Does she even consider the kids or is it really all about what Kate wants? She wants status, and the finer things in life. She loves the notoriety for being a mother of multiples, although she doesn't want to do any of the things that a "typical" mother does. She has a personal ORGANIC chef who cooks her meals, she has a gardener and lawn service company, she has someone who cleans for her, people who iron, fold and put away her laundry, people who care for the children, and a personal assistant who runs her errands and whatever else she needs. Then she also has Jon around 24/7 to do everything else that she finds distasteful, such as play with the children, bathe them, and put them to bed.

I've read posts from people who actually call Kate their "hero". I've talked to people who say watching the show makes them feel inadequate. Being a mom of twins and sextuplets would be a piece of cake if you didn't have to do ANY of the things that being a mom entails. I cringe when I hear how so many people idolize her and think she's "supermom". Many people take the show at face value. They believe that the cameras are just following them around and giving them a glimpse into their every day life. That is not the case at all.

I'm not going to place the blame on Kate for the show, because the viewers should realize that it's TV, not reality. It's staged to provide entertainment. I've talked to people who didn't even consider the "behind the scenes" things that go on to make the show, and really believed that they just had cameras in their house capturing spontaneous moments.

I do blame Kate for deceiving the viewers during her speaking engagements and appearances on talk shows. I think it was when they did Ellen, and she asked Kate how much help she has and Kate said "15 hrs a week". I couldn't believe that was her answer!! What she was referring to was the "paid help" she was receiving at the time. She had someone who ran errands for her and helped with the kids, paid for by the show. She didn't acknowledge any of the unpaid help. I'm sure that was a slap in the face to both Jodi and Beth, who were standing right behind her--off camera. Why pretend like she's struggling and doing it all alone? Why not tell everyone how grateful she is to have so many good people in her life and how much she appreciates their help and support? Could it be that she wants all of the attention on her? She wants everyone to think she's "supermom"? Maybe if she acknowledges all of her help and perks from the show, the story she wants people to believe won't be so interesting after all.

We've now come to find out how much these people really did mean to Kate. No wonder she didn't acknowledge them. They were just providing a "service" that she needed at the time, and as soon as other opportunities were made available, she has slowly cut everyone else out of their lives. It's time to move on to bigger and better things. She doesn't need their help anymore because now everything imaginable is provided to them by the network.

Then a few months after Ellen, I watched them on Oprah. They ran a clip of their "life" and you heard Kate saying her day consisted of "making a meal, feeding a meal, and cleaning up a meal" (x's 3). Where does the personal ORGANIC chef come into that scenario? My parents have actually eaten some of the food prepared for them. They watched Jodi's kids when Jodi was traveling with Kate, and Kate brought up some of the "leftovers" since they were going to be away. Nine jumbo lump crab cakes, and all of sides to go along with it. I think it's great for her that she doesn't have to cook, but why pretend that's all she does all day? Why not talk about something else instead of deceiving the viewers?

It's very hard for me to understand how she can continue to dwell on how EXHAUSTING her life is when she has been blessed with 8 healthy children. She doesn't have to provide the physical care that many parents deal with when their children have birth defects or are born preterm with other problems. She has every luxury in life handed to her, and she doesn't have to deal with any of the struggles that "normal" parents are faced with. All of these opportunities are as a result of her children, yet she doesn't seem to even consider what's best for them in her plan, and all I hear is how they make her life so "crazy". That's a real shame!!